Friday, April 2, 2010

changing views

yesterday i was thinking about all the things i used to think, and how they differ now. i'd like to think of it as growing up, but who knows. i mean, i'm still a youngin' so i wont profess to be an old wise lady yet. i guess this thought process came about because i babysat a baby.

1. i used to hate babies.
now they seem cuter and they like me more. which makes me like them more.

2. i used to think you were stupid if you didnt have a career [and you were a lady].
now i think i was stupid when i thought this. i still want a career, but i've grown to value how important parenthood (motherhood in this instance) is. i used to think being a feminist was getting a career. now i think a feminist is someone who knows they can choose their path.

3. i used to not want to get married til i was at least 25.
i got married when i was 21. because it was right and i was in true love (cue "awwww"). sometimes you have to be willing to change your mind, otherwise perfect situations could pass you by.

4. i used to never want a cat, and for a while i didnt even like them.
now i love my cat more than a child. ha ha ha.

5. i used to think after you graduated college- jobs would be handed to you on a silver platter.
not true. at all. i've actually become slightly jaded about getting a college degree at all. oh well. i'm sure it will pay off, but i kind of feel like i was lied to (thank you, highschool)

6. i used to think that you should always be friends w/friends, no matter what.
now i know this isnt true. being polite is always good, but if all a friend does is use you, you are not obligated to let that continue. i struggled with this last year, and thought that i was a bad person for it. but it's important to surround yourself with positive people who really value you as a person, not as a free ride.

7. i used to think i was ugly.
now [most days] i dont :)

there are lots of other things i was thinking of, but now i cant think of them. all i can think of right now is that i want a house and a dog. and perfect jobs for both of us ♥


Kerry_Kid Giddy said...

you may not be a wide "old" lady yet...but comments like these - tell me you are wise in your years!!! kg

Anonymous said...

I totally agree with your view on feminism. I have a career and am a mom, but I would love to be a housewife and stay at home mother. My coworkers tease me good naturedly, but they love that I bring in homemade bread. I think you just have to own your choice. :)

Honeybee said...

I LOVE #3! The part about "sometimes you have to be willing to change your mind, otherwise perfect situations could pass you by". It is so true. You are more mature than some of the boys I have dated! :)

angelina la dawn said...

i used to dislike cats too, and now i have two :)

xoxoKrysten said...

I so agree with you about the college degree. I'm finally buckling down and going for a 2 year but only after I got fired from a job. I figured since I can't find work right now (darn economy) I might as well get some schooling under my belt.

Andhari said...

Oh wow how #5 isn't true at all. You gotta go here and there and cry from time to time at night :p